I don't know what to say because I have never involved the kids and don't want to. I want them to know the truth, but I don't want them caught in the middle and don't want to disparage their mom (although I have some pretty awful thoughts right now). Right now I am the bad guy and I don't know what to do.
Clay234,
My opinion, for what it's worth, is that telling your children the truth isn't the same as getting them "caught in the middle." Given their age, if you simply give them the facts and don't treat them like pawns in a game, then I think that's acceptable.
