Here is a question I would like to ask for anyone who might have been in my situation.
As mentioned, my ex-w has turned down one job and quit another after just one week. She has told the kids that she cannot work a lot of hours right now because if she does, she will not be able to qualify for the low-income apartments in which she is living. I am burdened with all the debts from the marriage as well as having to work extra jobs in order to pay support. I have nothing for my retirement and she got everything. I currently pay for 150% of her entire cost of living, while she has a considerable amount to put away each month.
I am taking her back to court to have the order modified.
Last night my 16 year old D was throwing a tantrum and accused me of being cheap. I told her I don't have any money, which is true because I have thousands of dollars of debt due to the divorce, which I tried really hard to save. She responded by saying "that's because you hired a frickin' attorney to sue my mom". I don't know what to say because I have never involved the kids and don't want to. I want them to know the truth, but I don't want them caught in the middle and don't want to disparage their mom (although I have some pretty awful thoughts right now). Right now I am the bad guy and I don't know what to do.
