AndrewP, yes it was your thread I was reading. I hear you on the cake eating. I can feel and see some of that going on with my W. I have made it a point to not jump at the chance to be helpful like I would have in the recent past. Although she seems annoyed, this is really helping with my self respect. I opened a new personal bank account yesterday (we always have used joint accounts) which felt really good. I had let her know about it ahead of time, but I don't think she thought I was going to. She seemed upset about it, but didn't say anything. She left the house with a lame excuse and didn't come home until 3:30am. Although I was worried, I didn't msg her like I usually would. I am so proud of myself, I woke up in a great mood today because of it. Zero reaction and a genuine smile on my face as I went to sleep.
