Ok now I'm angry. He went to bed without even a wave. I went for water, saw him in bed and on his phone! I can't think what I did to deserve this???
Me54 WH48 S18 D16 M 22 T 24 EA-PA-EA 2011-2015 Separated 10/14 - 06/15 BD1 02/14 BD2 05/16 BD3 08/21/16 and began drinking again Working on me and liking me again
Cadet, I have not been pursuing. I've been much better. At first he moved forward with my nonpursuing, now he's more distant. Coincidence? It feels punitive. Is this the ugliness I was warned of?
I will start new thread afternoon after I have my DB phone session. Thanks cadet for responding. I do feel more alone. Col
Me54 WH48 S18 D16 M 22 T 24 EA-PA-EA 2011-2015 Separated 10/14 - 06/15 BD1 02/14 BD2 05/16 BD3 08/21/16 and began drinking again Working on me and liking me again
Cadet, I have not been pursuing. I've been much better. At first he moved forward with my nonpursuing, now he's more distant. Coincidence? It feels punitive. Is this the ugliness I was warned of?
I will start new thread afternoon after I have my DB phone session. Thanks cadet for responding. I do feel more alone. Col
Well things normally get worse before they get better.
As far as pursuit and detachment, just think of it like an onion with different layers, you have peeled a few layers off but there are many more that you have to get to.
I was trying to say on the last post that it is not your fault what he does. You are not responsible for him, only for YOU!
