Dance and Persuit and Distance: "When you detach and distance yourself from your spouse, notice how they start coming around, being nice, etc.? Well, he/she feels that you are not pursuing them. They want the chase, they want you to pursue them so that they can come back and slam dunk you all over again."
This is how I felt last Friday when she mentioned D and S after we seemed to reconnect on vacation. I somewhat 180'd the week leading up to vacation so I'm thinking that is the very behavior described above.
So the point is to STOP pursuing. You then take away their power. And possibly they start to pursue you
