Turns out W has put herself in a very poor position by moving out, thank you to hose that said to stay in the family home. As we have just recently built a house, and is probably still a negative equity, W would receive next to nothing if I were to buy her out. She has been pushing on the house the last couple of weeks, trying to use 'legal advice' as her scare tactic, I think hoping I would have a knee jerk reaction. She has been complaining about me changing the locks, something I was legally entitled to do, and I was trying to figure out why. In a text message last night, she gave herself away, she knows how the process of a buy out will work but I have the feeling she doesn't expect or think I have my own lawyer.
W had sent me a letter telling me I had to do this and that by such and such a date or face legal action, it was written by her, not her lawyer though. Mine has pretty much told me that the letter isn't worth anything.
My father and I had the feeling she is trying to find a way back into the house, I am due to take the kids on vacation soon and we wondered if she was trying to move herself back in while we were away.... She has offered to look after the cat at the house as, apparently, she can not have pets at her apartment. Or then suggested a kid we used once before, both ways that she could get access to a key...
I did find out that I can state that she doesn't have the right to set foot on the property without my permission, failure to comply and I can get police involvment and charges brought. Not planning to go down this road unless she really plays silly games.
Her last couple of texts last night were all friendly again like she was back tracking. It feels like a period of time where she had lost control and the games are really starting as Sandi has mentioned can happen. Texts came in after 8.30 and I have given myself a boundary of not replying after between 8.30pm and 8.30am when it's not an emergency.
Has given me some piece of mind that there is not much she can do to me at the moment from the legal side of things regarding the house. She could try and force a sale but was informed that that process normally takes a year and would be expensive for her.
She even mentioned that she would have her own car by next week, like it really matters to me, but it shows to me that she is still seeking validation. Still seeking her LL of words of affirmation. I have had this feeling for a few weeks that she is not in a relationship, I have the feeling now that it may have been in her head and OM wasn't what she thought he was going to be. Doesn't change my path as she still chose to leave in the manner she did. Had found out that there is gossip at her work that I'm not being her friend etc etc.
Anyways, enough about that, looking forward to my weekend. Another festival to go to with the meetup group, need to work on the car a bit too. Should have enough to keep me busy.
