My tough chicks are doing shockingly well, SH. A full week out from the slaughterhouse scene, and every bird I could find that night (10 of the 13) is still alive and clucking! Today was the first day I let them out to free range again for a little while, and they were pretty darn excited to be out choking down on grass and searching for bugs. I made sure they were all locked back inside the fence before I left the house for my meeting.
My L-friend keeps telling me that I need to start telling myself these things: 1- this was not due to anything I did/I am not at fault 2- I am rid of a person I wouldn't have ever wanted in his current state ( his actual comparison was to a beautiful Christmas gift that you unwrapped only to discover that it was really just a bag of coal) - so I am rid of a bag of coal 3- that I shouldn't re-examine all my memories, rather just accept that I had at least 20 years of a relationship that was genuinely good, and then it just changed.
I'm trying to accept those thoughts as truth. Certainly it helps to believe H wasn't like this when I married him.
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
