Detaching.....nearly there..

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Surfer, just a suggestion on the dating during all this. When my separation first began I was in a really low point. I had begun GAL, but had just begun. I wanted to put it back together with my WW, but was months away from finding this site or the books. I decided dating would be part of my GAL (which I didn't know was GAL at that time) and I went out with two women. One of them really liked me, but I realized I was just not ready for it and that I would only end up hurting her because I am still in love with my WW and I would have only been using her for a revenge fling. Guess what, it hurt her anyway because she felt I led her on even though I was very honest, painfully honest about my sitch from the start. Then for about a week I had this woman and WW blowing me up about what my flaws were as a human from two different angles. You do what you gotta do, but that something to think about. You might still be a hot mess right now. Also, WW and I married on the very tail end of each having had a divorce. Yes we knew each other prior and had been in love prior, and had been off an on for years, but still - those rebounds or transition, well if they worked for most people I would not be here right now. Just my experience man. Hope yours is different.