Being good at disagreement

[mustardseed]

Ginger1 has some really good points. I don't ever want to be a distrusting person. I like that can be trusting. But what I am learning to do is to trust myself more. I ignored all of my red flags as well because I wanted to believe the illusion. The red flags were buried under the things I wanted to see and hear.

I now pay attention to those red flags, but like I have said in my thread I am recognizing the things that make me drawn to the people that raise them. I am working through that. I want to believe that people generally have good intentions. I have learned that not everyone does, but even if they do have good intentions but hurt me in the process that means they aren't right for me. Not that they are a bad person, but not the person for me and I don't have to keep them in my life. I am still struggling to recognize it and apply it, but I think if I have this mastered my next R (if there is one) will be a better fit than any that have come before.