Oh Chippie..... So sorry you are going thru this. Your mind must be spinning.
Keep your appointment with the lawyer on Friday. Make a list of talking points so you are not all over the map. Tell the lawyer the facts, such as
that you have two young daughters, and that your husband makes more money than you do
that your husband is acting irrationally and abusively at time, throwing things at you including a computer and locked you out of the house, and makes derogatory untrue statements in front of the girls. Tell the lawyer the abusive things that YOU did to your husband too
that your husband is having an emotional, and perhaps a physical, affair with the woman he went camping with
that he wants to purchase a house together and made an offer on one
he keeps saying that he has not made up his mind about whether you two should stay together or divorce
that you also do not know whether you want to get divorced or not
And anything else you can think of. Tell the lawyer that you want to know what your rights are, and how to protect yourself and your girls. Ask the lawyer if it is wise to sign a contract on a house at this time. He or she will tell you about the divorce laws in your state (each state is a little different).
For what it's worth, I agree with ForGump, and would back out of the house contract too. But since you have an appointment with a lawyer tomorrow anyway, why not take advantage of that and get some professional advice.
Oh, and about not being able date-able at age 48 - I got divorced after 38 years of marriage, at age 61. I am now almost 64, and have been seeing a nice man who treats me like a queen for the past 2 years. So you can stop worrying about being too old for dating LOL
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
So sorry you are going thru this. Your mind must be spinning.
