Throughout the 6 months my wife has been close by calling and texting daily, coming over and hanging out with me and our D and I genuinely thought I was doing the right things.
The thing was my W seemed genuinely surprised that I was hurt. I think by my acting as if I was fine was so good she actually thought I was over her and wouldn't care. After last night she now knows the truth as I couldn't hold back any longer.
I don't even know why I'm saying all this I don't know where to go from here.
Im sorry that you are in this spot. I can imagine it felt like a kick straight to the gut.
That said, it's strange that you came here immediately and thought that doing the things above were "the right things". It sounds like cake eating to the extreme to me. If she never had any chance to miss you or miss out on family time, then what is/was her impetus to make any kind of change. If you were always willing to be at her beck and call, there was never any incentive for her to pursue you as a husband anymore.
I dont think acting as if you were OK was the problem. I think thats important. But acting as if you are willing to be her friend and waiting around for her scraps IS a problem.
I do not believe it is ever "too late". I think it's time to read up on WWs and start to figure out what is best for you and your daughter.
