I'm very glad to read that you are going to be able to keep your home.
I'm so sorry that your D15 saw the FB page of your wife's. That had to be an awful shock for her. I'm sure she'll be angry for quite a while. She may revisit those pages again just to see what her mother is up to...but I hope not. Her mother has completely lost the plot.
As for the government...they are going to have a difficult time getting that support money back from your STBXW. She's probably already spent it. They may end up taking it from her salary and could very well put her in jail for fraud. She's going to be facing some of her consequences for her actions very soon. I sure wouldn't want to be in her shoes.
The birthday surprise that you have planned for your D15 will be a wonderful one. She will be so surprised and happy and this is one of many memories that she will cherish. You'll enjoy the party as well because you love doing things for your daughters and you want to see them happy. Irish, you are a wonderful father...never doubt that.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
