That is a lot for the family to deal with, and I am sorry for how it has splintered and touched so many. I think your WW will have to see this OM for what he is, .........and if he has enough money, she may stay in that lifestyle. It could have been more of the lifestyle OM provided, instead of her feelings for him.
Anyway, your W will probably have to crash and burn, before she will let go of her insane fantasy and take a long look at what she has done to her family. How long this may take.....nobody knows.
This I have accepted Sandi and have tried to protect my girls from collateral damage. This whole situation saddens me and taints my view of future relationships... As I thought this was for life and how someone could harm me this way.
Common sense would tell you that this relationship she has created built on lies and deception will end and end badly.
Me:47 XW 43 D15 D10 Together 17 married 15 Bd : Mother's Day 2015 Sep :July 2015 Divorce final October 2016