Detaching.....nearly there..

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Thanks Sotto. It might well be that I am just getting frustrated at a lack of control as such. My WW is tending to put others first though so she can get time with wayward friends rather than turn up on time for my time with D8 and S6 (she always has an excuse). I find this so frustrating given these friends were involved in the whole EA etc scenario.....just need to detach I think. We have to get on for the kids sake but when I know she is so manipulative that's hard.

Another question. When she picks up/drops off she often has something to say 'you need to, you should, you must' type things. Not nagging so much, more being 'bossy'. She is very keen on this. I detests it with a passion. I don't want to come across as rude in front of the kids - she always does this in front of them. What is the best way to handle this - I normally just look through her and validate in an 'I'm not listening and you know it way'. I don't think it really helps tbh - it's frustrates her. But I am not going to act like a doormat husband either.

Any thoughts? Anyone?.....