Hi surfer, I'd love to start dating, but only if she wants it - I've been hurt too much to get so emotionally involved again.

As for her giving you orders - a couple of suggestions
1. Don't even give her the opportunity (meet kids at door, be busy etc)
2. Flat out say NO if it doesn't suit! (be careful with this one though!)

M 10, T 18
M: 36, W: 35, D: 8, S: 6
EA: Oct 12
ILYBINILWY: Jan 15
BD: Aug 15
Separated: Sep 15
Miss you: Jun 16
Aug 16: Dating (!)
Oct 16: Selfishness returns...
currently: disgusted