I'm probably more flawed than you are, but I am happiest when I keep the focus on working on me. It's easy for me to lose focus on that when it feels like the marriage is going well, but then I find myself losing my detachment and becoming emotionally dependent.
When I focus on the 180s that are important to me, and on GAL, it feeds my need for control in a healthy way.
I'm not really qualified to offer advice, so take it for what it's worth.
((Blu))
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
