Hi Cil, I'm sorry you had a difficult talk with your H. I can see it must be hard to get your head around his pleasantness and him thinking of you - to then have that talk and hear him say what he did. I do think there seems to be some conflict there for him.

I think it makes absolute sense to drop the rope. And that may well be the best thing for you both. You can detach more and he gets some space and time to move forward too. Of course dropping the rope needn't mean giving up - just reaching a new level of detachment. As with any of our sitches, who knows how things may ultimately unfold.

In the meantime, do try to shift the focus firmly on to you and let him be for now my friend xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
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BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus