Chapter 3. Let the detachment begin

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SH:

Thanks for your reply. You are right. I'm the energizer bunny. I've taken on DB/DR and most other things in my life with an energy that is unprecedented. So will I take things to the limit and beyond yes.

I spent most of my career in the large corporate sector and have worked with all kinds of people on how to better communicate with the people in the executive suites, subordinates and the people sitting next to you.

Not that I want to argue with you - in fact just the opposite. I want clarification.

Sandi2 - I try and follow her advice to the letter (if I can). The idea that my W does not respect me and will only rethink her choices once she does, seems to make sense to me.

My W is a superb writer. She has never sent/published anything without it being well crafted and considered the audience. She knows the golden rule - saying please and thank you means lots to the reader - when you want something from them. She sent that note with a chip on her shoulder. She did not want to say - I have a good opportunity would you help me out...

I can't remember what I posted on this - but the time W spends with our S10, S15 she often feels is not enough (unless she has something better to do). When we hammered out the arrangements with the Dr. during family therapy she left not happy. It is a consent point of contention. So the "I won't be able to spend 3 hours.." is a passive aggressive statement. As she feels that I'm keeping her from them.

Again, the details are not important. So I helped because it's good for me and my son. Was I a doormat - probably.

Did I tell her that if you want to work with me (as she says she does) you need to be nice and respect the person you are working with.

So SH, Sandi2 and others - the issue for me is the email she sent she would not send to the cable guy. So how did I do? I've read many times that we would not accept disrespect from a spoiled child - so why from a WW/WAW.