When W left, she treated me poorly and talked down to me. Since I have stood up for myself, she has toned down her speech and treats me with greater respect than she has in months. By standing up for myself I don't mean anger (which I've been guilty of) but responding to something ugly by saying "I don't appreciate being talked to that way" and if it continues be prepared to say something like I need to go I'll talk to you tomorrow.
Take charge of things. I used to say "whatever's good for you" and let her make most of the choices. Now, I take charge and give her minimal options. This shows you're not just trying to make her happy, you're the decision maker.
If she asks you to do something, don't always say yes. You're busy, you have things to do, you don't feel like it. She's not your W, so you don't have to go over the top making her feel good. She can do things herself, it's what she wanted, right!? I'm getting better about this, it makes them think you're scarce. They want what is more difficult to get through to. Always there? No worries. Why won't he answer? Why won't he help? What's he doing? He was never like this before? It's gets em thinking....
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.
