2T - wow, lots going on over there. In reading about your h's various fluctuations, I was reminded of a teenager who toggles between showing tremendous maturity, sudden moodiness, anger and odd immaturity. And then back again through it all. Sounds familiar, eh? One day, h is über capable. The next he storms off saying this isn't "fun." Then anger and back to maturity. Yes, more baking needed.
As for you BIL, it seems to me you practiced self care. There is a business and a marriage at stake. From what you write, it does not appear that BIL was on the same page.
Rgarding your in-laws, it's a private business affair, really. There will be much he said/she said and as parents, their primary objective should be to sit the fence and help them mend fences as they cannot know the whole truth to what happened.
Take care. Thinking of you.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
