Thank you. I responded to Roist and then jumped over to your Sandi's reflections post and read the whole thing. That was discovered when doing Cadet's homework. I apologize for starting a new thread - I did not think I was by including the link, which I thought I had seen others do.
To answer your questions hopefully: My hang up was that when reading the DB book, I did not feel or see how it really applied to the separated/continuing affair/lying scenario I am in. I was feeling confused which lead me here. When I read your reflections, I felt less confused. While I had many of the 180 things in play, I had not done anything of consequence to her. I did not because we have a 4 year old. I thought that family days would be best for him. I thought going out with her would be best for us. It only occured to me a few days ago, and more immediately today, that this is not the case for any party. I have not and will not stop GAL, my post was misleading due to my confusion. I do very much hope for the best and I am continuing to improve myself, which she is noticing. I think though that since she is noticing I have become impatient about her affair. I also recall rule number 32, but that I am clearly forgetting rule number 33. I am still confused as to the signs of improvement, but realize the open expression of reconciling and ending the affair on her part may be the only one to look for. Your opinion, everyone's opinion here matters to me and I thank you greatly. Please let me know if I have understood you correctly.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
