The lie continues...

[roist]

I won't tell you what you should do about the A. I will just say that the last time you confronted her she moved out. Since she has lied. Will a second confrontation change anything for the better? I will let others advise here.

However what you have to do for YOU is the same regardless of her. The work and actions are the same. Yes GAL, yes continue 180s. Yes continue reading self help books.Yes continue to improve. You will like yourself better and so maybe eventually she will too.

First up you need to stop this eating you up. Easy to say. Hard to do. The internet is full of helpful resources on cbt and mindfulness that could help. But apart from confronting what else does this knowledge encourage you to do? I imagine you want less interaction would be a normal reaction. You can do that without a big declaration or confrontation.

If you have to ( and you don't..... it is a choice) I would not state you are still willing to work on M. Simply state you are aware that A is still active and that you don't appreciate this. Then back off completely.Dont try to control and don't pursue. Back off and focus on what you have to do anyway.

Do something new and fun this weekend. Let us know what you choose.

Best wishes