Just a Vanilla Change 31

[Zephyr]

Lady V, it is a relief that the courts have granted the divorce! hopefully the financial stuff will all follow suit soon!

[rd500]

Hi Lady V. Congrats on getting the D from that fool. He never deserved to be with someone like you and you certainly didn't deserve him and his nasty ways

Lady V is free and look out world ( when lady v is ready )

Great news and I'm sending big hugs

Take care. Rd

[Vanilla]

Thank you Jellyb, Zephyr and RD.

Hugs right back

V

[JujuB]

Congratulations! I wish I could get on an airplane and celebrate with you!

Lots of love vanilla!

J.

[Vanilla]

Just as you think life is beginning to roll for you, it throws curve balls at you.

There are a number of things going on in my life which are going to place great demands on me aged ma is unwell and in hospital.

I am tired still.

Hey that's life to unfold.

V

[pinn]

Sorry to hear V... my prayers are with you

[rd500]

Positive thoughts for your mum lady V

Take care. Rd

[Vanilla]

Thank you all.

I have begun reviewing my history and R with xWH.

There is much heartbreak and destruction, abuse and hurt.

It's time to begin to rebuild and reframe so that I understand so it will not be repeated.

For the first timever I felt lonely, facing my mums illness and family stuff without a partner.

I went on a date too, Mr Gentleman. I am sad to say my soul isn't ready. I am concious that I still carry excess weight too and my very best clothes don't fit yet. Although I am confident enough.

So dating is back burnered again until I feel more ready.

My emotions are very raw still and my skin burns and smarts from the sheer embarrassment of the things I know.

Not good.

Still, I have the gift of time.

I continue to exercise and eat well, slowly slowly inching forwards.

V

[rd500]

Hi.Lady V , as you are well aware I am very far from a vet , I am however old and with that age comes some experience You were not to blame and nor could you have avoided what happened

I've read your posts on here and your a caring and gentle soul. You look for the best in people and that's a gift but it can also be a burden

More cynical people like myself don't look for the good when we first meet people but most times that's our loss

XH has issues and has learnt to disguise or hide them from kind people like Lady V

IMHO XH will continue to deceive and lie his way through life finding good people and using them

Lady V can look back with hindsight and perhaps pick out where she choose badly BUT we are all wise after the event

My two cents worth is to accept that XH is who his is and Lady Vs only mistake in this was being Lady V and no one on this earth wants you to change that

Put your energy into living and enjoying your life Let it go You naturally want to avoid anything like this again but that's not possible unless you cahnge who you are and I've covered that already 😄

Just my opinion Sis , hope your Mum is ok

Big hug and take care. Rd

[ATPeace]

Hey lady V

Thank you for dropping by my threading was great to hear from you. You are such a kind warm lady my thoughts are with you

I spent the afternoon blackberry picking with my daughters it was lovley having my eldest and my youngest with me.

Take care and many hugs to you

Ghost