Did Not See It - But Should Have

[RDS]

I'm in a deep conundrum. Yesterday my wife dropped off a lot of stuff for me to sell and in that stuff was all my letters and a few photo albums, to include our wedding album. There were 7 photo albums and I tossed most of the pictures and I got the photo albums reduced to 2. Most of the pictures are of me and her when we just started dating and during the first years of our marriage. I consolidated all her pictures into one photo album. I guess it's all in one place so if I want to burn her pictures I will have them all in one place, but right now it's one place I can reminisce about happy times.

After going through the pictures last night I was in a funk again. I was dong pretty good detaching and planned on not contacting her for at least a week, but she texted me on Sunday and then she had to drop off so many memories and that got me to thinking of her again.

So today my VP of the North American division called and proposed a new job for me. I would have to relocate to Chattanooga, TN. It would be a step up in responsibility and about a 20 percent pay increase. My dilemma is if I do take the job and move I feel as if I will destroy any chance of getting back with my W. I just think moving a couple of states over would be too far a distance to even think of R.

I did text my W and she called. She sounded happy but I was knee deep in problems so I asked to call her back. I called a few hours later and we talked about 90 minutes. She thinks I should take the job as it's too good a job to pass up. I never asked her about how the job would be for "us". I know not to bring up talk about our R. She say she wants what is best for me, but it's not best for me if she isn't with me.

It's amazing we can talk on the phone for hours now where before five minutes would have been about four minutes too long.

My L thinks we will eventually get back together. She said she's never seen a H put as much effort to saving the marriage as I have. I don't know how much to take from that.