Pllllft....forget all that self-defeating talk of divorce. That is not a good mindset to have if you truly want to save the M. Let me tell you a secret here: Many, MANY success stories have had the WAS speak in absolutes that "divorce" will happen and never will get back together with the LBS. Guess what?! Those DBers worked butts off in DBing and are happily reconciled.
Chin up. Have faith that this will all work out.
Do your homework provided by Cadet and please do read the Divorce Remedy book as it is the second, more updated edition to the original Divorce Busting book.