and to add on that a little. she's even talked to me about her IC, and even at times, I was her IC (living room IC), but she knows that she holds on to anger, holds on to grudges, never lets go of the past, never lets things live down, and never forgives... she still has walls built up and grudges held from things that were so long ago, and seem so menial when looking in from the outside.
Not being able to forgive others, or yourself, puts you in a bad position of living your life in captive of past events... never get a solid change to live in the "now"... too much worry all the time, etc.
You just listed a perfect description of my EX-WW!
So my question to you is... Did your Ex always have these personality traits, or was it something that came along later in life/marriage?
If not the latter, then are you suggesting to me that my W was a fully developed WW before she was even finished with her childhood?
