lol doodler, funny how IC sessions have impact on our mentalities... then again, I think you'd say the same thing on any other day of the week, regardless of IC.
paclove, i'm not the perfect DB'r, but we all have different paths, and goals, to get to where we need to be going. Have you ever heard of the principle of equifinality? ...good reading
having said that, i'm some where in the middle of you and doodler... I probably would state a boundary of OM's presence in the marital home. She left you and the marriage, and you both agreed she'd stay there WHILE she's watching D9, but she is not watching D9 this time. She's alone.
Quick question, who was the first to suggest she stay in the home alone while you and D9 were out of town?
I would pay for the dogs to be boarded, or hotel'd, or pampered, or whatever people do nowadays with their dogs. I saw a doggie hotel the other day that was 150% the price of a decent hotel in the city i live... couldn't believe it. On the other side, you can find a girl/boy in the neighborhood willing to come walk them for $10 bucks a day or something, 3 walks per day, I do that when I know I'm going to be gone for a long time and don't want to get my W involved with "hey can you go let the dogs out", because... well, I don't need her to, I'm taking care of the house and all things in it until her dumba$$ gets her [censored] together.
I also would setup a security camera (or two), (NOT IN THE BEDROOM - or anywhere else you might see something which you will never be able to "unsee"), but what would suffice is just knowing if OM was there or not, that's really all that's necessary IMO. I don't know why people don't have security cameras setup anyways, but maybe I'm just a crazy person, I have several around my property and house. Plus, I can watch and spy on the animals from all over the world!! (as long as I have internet connection)!
