ForGump, My wife had actually lost her band during a house move about 8 months before an affair began. I did not think much of it at the time there was no monetary value. What I wish I had done was have it replaced. I kept wearing mine until I found out about the affair and then I took it off. Her and I are separated now and have been for 5 months. Her affair continues. I have been doing GAL for the five months and just began all of the 180's and to read the Dr.'s books. I will tell you two things about my experience with removing my ring: 1. When I took it off of my hand in front of my WW I told her that whether we ended in D or rebuilt the R, the old M was dead and if we rebuild, we could one day get each other new rings for a new future. She agreed with that.You may not be at this point yet to make things so bold. 2. I don't know how you look in terms of being in shape, self confidence, or how you dress - but you take that ring off and wear it in public, temptation will come knocking. Be prepared for what you will do in that situation and how it will make you feel knowing that you still love and want your wife if you cave in the name of thinking it will take your mind off it. Believe me. Stay strong, its hard, I'm new here and struggling too. Heed Cadet's welcome letter.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
