Progress is slow but does happen!

[PacLove]

She still has regular access to the house as we do our best to co-parent our D in the family home, so changing locks is not an option - plus I'm apprehensive about any vindictive act that pushes her further away.

She's in temporary accommodation right now, living week by week - hasn't really "moved" out. She even spends the odd night sleeping in the guest bedroom when she watches over D and I'm out late. Our closet still has all her clothes in there - something that I may seek to change when I get back (The constant reminder is frustrating)

AndrewP - yeah I think that's where I fell short on ground rules, our separation agreement only had a clause whereby we aren't to introduce D to anyone we are seeing and that she can stay in the home when she's watching D.

I won't see her before I leave so I may just send an email to her with things she needs to worry about (ie water lawn, ...) with a phrase at the end "BTW I expect you to honor the sanctity of our marital home while I'm away and refrain from any male guests during your stay." Although this may well fall on deaf hears since she's already failed to honor our marital vows.

Obviously I won't be able to validate it and even if I could (ie VAR, or Camera) bringing it up would be bad DB'ing.