My wife of 12 years dropped the bomb several months ago, saying I'm a great guy but there just is no physical attraction -- there was little in the first place, now she says -- and, in fact, I'm quite suffocating, she says. And she had (is having?) an emotional affair. We have young kids and are still living together in the same house. She severed all emotional and physical intimacy with me. She's taking slow and incremental steps towards a legal divorce.

I'm doing all I can to detach, validate and GAL, which has made our interactions more friendly but it doesn't appear to have done anything to affect basic her desire to get a divorce.

I still wear my wedding band, not to communicate something to her, but because it means something to me. Should I take it off?


Me: 50, MLC/WW 45
Young kids
Nov 2015: BD1
Apr 2016: BD2
Jan 2017: W filed
Feb 2017: D final