ATPeace -
You sound paralyzed.

On the one hand, you read to be resigned to a hopelessness that nothing you do will have any impact. That your fate is already sealed and it is only a matter of time until you reach the end of this road. On the other hand, you read terrified that you might make a mistake and cause things to get "worse". As if as long as you dont do anything, then you can stay in this stasis forever as long as you dont do anything.

Let me tell you something: This state ou are in right now IS the worst. No matter which way you move, things will get better.Your fear of living apart is far worse than the actuality of living apart. Your fear of single parenting is far worse than the actual effect of single parenting.

You have no reason to be afraid. You cannot make things worse. Only better.