I had a similar situation - I just sent a quick note
'Please don't take this the wrong way - I just wanted to acknowledge your loss at this time, I wanted to pay my respects and offer my help if you need anything'
Me-45, W-37, T-10 yrs, M-9 yrs D -7 yrs, S-5 yrs BD-5/3/16, D filed 6/8/16