perhaps. but my anger is through the roof. i cant even stand the sight of her right now. i know that will fade with time. but at this point, i cant seem to trust anyone. especially her and her close circle.
I agree with mvgfwd. I still have hope after my D will be finalized that there still is a chance. The positive side is that you can control your actions and rebuild the friendship and hope this leads to rekindling the romance if she is smart and sees change in you. Of she does not someone else will.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
i haven't spoken to her in 2 weeks, other than to say what time i'm dropping off the kids. and when i drop them off, or pick them up, i don't even get out of my vehicle.
I am so unbelievably hurt by her actions. I don't want to see her, talk to her, or listen to her. I don't wish any bad to happen to her, but i don't wish her and good either.
as far as im concerned, it's over. she would have to make a full 100% change in her life, and keep that change for several months if not years. she has a problem. some people have problems with booze, or drugs or gambling. her problem is the addiction to attention from men. the more the merrier. and im not willing to deal with that.
i found out that OM2 has a long term girl friend with 2 kids together. i informed her this morning of the relationship between my wife and he. im pretty sure stuff will hit the fan very soon. she thanked me, and suspected something was going on for the last few weeks. i doubt that this will help my cause in any way, but i felt that she needed to know.
Of course she needs to know. Some don't think it's a good idea to tell the OP's partner but not me. If this is going to happen everyone that has an interest needs to know. And this other woman has a firm interest.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5
I am with you 100% E. You drew your line and are standing by it, as a real man should. I think that sooner or later she will realize what she has done. Every divorced person I have spoken to says that the ex spouse has come back at some point to ask for forgiveness or to try and work things out. Way to take a stand!
zero fallout so far, from telling the OM2 partner. i chatted with that person a lot. supposedly she called her a homewrecker etc. and she said that its over now.
the rough draft of our divorce came and i read it over. Its not a bad deal. At this point, im ready to sign and move on with my life.
she is acting nice to me. she is acting as if she wants to be friends. Did she somehow forget that she cheated on me multiple times? or that the rough draft of the divorce papers came to both of us a few days ago?
she would like nothing more than to be bff an co parent our kids. it seems that she thinks that there would be no guilt on her part if i was ok with everything. like she would get a get out of jail free card. this is the stuff that drives me bonkers.
imo she is trying to smooth things over between us, like its no big deal. treating divorce, (separating assets, homes for our children, lies, cheating, secrets ) as if we were picking out the color of paint for the living room. its madness. and i can see it already. im going to be the bad guy. im going to be labeled the jerk.
all of my friends, family, coworkers, have told me, "you are a great guy, you did nothing wrong, you gave her every chance in the world, you can walk away with no blood on your hands" but that just doesnt cut it for me. some day, maybe next week, maybe 10 years from now. she will hopefully wake up. and see what SHE did. until then, it seems she will be in this fog of "why is HE acting so cold towards me ???? " end of rant
