I think "Control is an illusion". We like to think we have control of our lives. We have control whether we put a smile on that day and choose to have a good attitude but other then that not really.
That was one of the great lessons I learned through all of this. I did not control my exw, I did not control my children, I did not control her family, my family or even the situation. I did have control of determining whether I grew my internal strength sufficient enough to help me through all the things I could not control.
There was a movie with Anthony Hopkins and Cuba Gooding called instinct. If you ever watch it make sure you see the scene in the jail cell where Hopkins Character is choking Goodings in the movie and what Hopkins says to him. It's actually a lesson we all need to learn. "We need to give up the illusion that we have control"
Just some random thoughts from my journey.....and what a wonderful journey it is.
