I believe my ExW does think she will end up getting spousal support for life. Some attorneys say it is possible because it was considered a long-term marriage. Not sure what state you are in (I am in CA), but it seems like most of the states have it wrong. SHE quit the marriage and although she was a SAHM, it is a stab in the back for all the sacrifices I made so she could stay home and clean IF she felt like it or stay in bed all day because she didn't feel like doing anything. Why should there be a reward for breaking her vows? I have worked extra hard for years so I could someday take a break, but she always wanted something new and now she wont work because she expects that I have to keep working. I am 51 and a DAV. I hope the judge is reasonable and puts an end to it. There is no reason I should have to pay her anymore. She is the one who did this.
The original intent of alimony was to provide sustenance when one partner (usually the man)committed marital misconduct. If the woman committed marital misconduct, she was said to have forfeited any compensation. In my case, she did commit misconduct. Not adultery, but spent thousands of dollars behind my back, had secret mailboxes, bank accounts and credit cards. That information should be enough to compel the judge to put an end to it, but we shall see.
It sounds like you have a difficult battle ahead of you too. I wish you the best of luck. Thanks again for your reply.
