I don't know how it could have been handled differently. And I am afraid of next spouse not wanting to spend time with me either.
Oh, this made me tear up... ((((JujuB)))) If they only knew how much they've hurt us. I went through the very same thing.
There are many, many people who remarry happily. I truly believe that those of us here, who introspect, grow and develop, review our history and think about what we can do differently, maybe see an IC, stand a much, much better chance to find happiness than the average person.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17