My turn... Part 3

[Cole_]

Last night my wife decided to push for some kind of predetermined schedule for when I took the kids. I told her I didn't want to discuss it with her at that exact moment but would be wiling set aside a prearranged time in the future to do so. She seemed annoyed but agreed. Later that night I told her that in lieu of a discussion, I still wanted to have the kids over for dinner after I got off work on Monday and Wednesday.

So today was the first time I took the kids out to dinner by myself since I moved into the apartment. They were so excited when I walked in the front door of my wife's house. I only wish she was there to see it instead of our nanny. They couldn't wait to go out with me. I told them we could go out to eat or we could go back to my apartment and I'd make something. They chose to go to my apartment. It was last minute and I'm still trying to get all the food, spices, and cooking implements together since my wife kept a great deal of them, but I managed to whip something together and we had a fantastic time eating dinner and playing together after. So much that my oldest asked if they could spend the night.

Unfortunately, it was a last minute request so I had to turn him down with the promise that we could try and do it Wednesday night or possibly over the weekend. I drove them home and ended up giving them their baths and putting them to sleep again. It really seemed comforting to know that this situation in my apartment, seeing my kids after work sharing custody could work. Overall it was a great day... just wish it ended that way.

As I was walking out the door, my wife mentioned that one of my family members decided to unfriend her on Facebook. My wife was obviously annoyed/upset about it, and if I'm honest, so am I. I understand why they unfriended my wife. They feel she's treating me poorly. Still, I told them countless times that I want to approach this situation with love, understanding and inclusiveness and I didn't want to make things harder than they needed to be by creating huge walls of anger and resentment between our families. I repeatedly old them that because if our kids, we had to be sure that our two families were always able to work through things and remain connected and on good terms.

Of course now it's hard my for my wife feel like she would ever be welcomed back into my family. Not only do we need to fight repair everything that's happened between the two of us, but now we have to fight to repair the relationship between our families. It seems like every time I start making progress, someone in my family does something stupid to make my life harder and make this situation impossible.