Pac, you may be Plan B right now (I was) and she may be cake eating (mine was) but so what. That doesn't change what you need to do to work on your marriage. Sometimes we have to suck up a lot of humiliation. Like my signature says, don't be a doormat. But also, just try to roll with it. You never know -- the OM could disappoint sooner rather than later. And so what if you're the default partner? Sometimes they just need to see what's out there to fully appreciate what they have at home. They shouldn't, but they do.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
