On a slightly different side of things... before the weird "I talked to your new girl, she's sweet, play it cool, I'm happy for you but really I hate you" conversations started, I could see a big change in direction on how my W was approaching this situation. The anger has faded quite a bit, but I think I mentioned this in a previous post. Whenever we interact lately, text, talk, or face-to-face, she seems somewhat thoughtful. Like she's not just in a constant state of reaction and she doesn't seem near as aggressive in her approaches to pretty much anything.
Several of the talks we had led her to saying things like she doesn't see how there's any way we could ever get this finalized in the next 3 weeks, and that she see's our D carrying on for quite some more time. and even if we could, why should we rush things? ie, lets just take things slow and let them happen naturally, blah blah. it seems I'm now the one with the consistency in what's going on and what should come next. I'm still not entirely sure what's going on in her mind, but she's definitely "slowed her role" quite a bit. The whole texting about finding out about "my new girl," was not something I'd ever receive from my W... She's overly jealous, aggressive, etc, and even though it was text, it seemed 'calm.' I'm not sure if that's a change, or just depression take a hold on her.
I'm going to have to go meet this "new girl" in my life, as I don't know who she is, but my W is giving me dating advice on how to handle my rate of contact with her before I blow it. Haha. (jk, I'm not doing this).
My W that was around last week, actually made me miss her a little bit when she wasn't around. It actually got me thinking about "what if", not that I want this, nor do I expect it. But it was a good feeling for me to have... bittersweet. I want that friendship back that we had, but there are way too many variables involved right now and definitely not the time to be thinking about it too much. Plus, she's still lying to me... she's a master of manipulation, but a horrible liar.
