Yep, I put my disclaimer in there so you wouldn't read too much into what I was saying, but d@mn it sounds like DID. Of course, if that's what it is (and certainly don't take my word for it), then she doesn't know about the insiders. She might have some clues, she may feel like she's crazy, but she doesn't really know about the insiders.
People with DID generally start "falling apart" as they near the age of 30 because they've arrived at a place mentally where they can start handling some of the repressed memories. Unfortunately, the repressed memories can be very disruptive.
Also, be aware that communication channels seem to make a difference. Your wife's alter that is "out" the predominate amount of the time may be talking to you one minute, and then, a different alter may text you something the next minute. I don't know why, but different alters can come out while using different modes of communication.
There are some things you can try when you talk to her that will elicit other alters, but once the applecart is upset, expect things to get worse before they get better (and I'm not talking about divorce stuff).
People with DID need lots of tender loving care and attention. They've had a hard life and it literally takes many years to work through the various issues.
