No childhood abuse, but definitely some problems in ECD (Early Childhood Development). Her mother is an un-medicated bi-polar/manic, some would even put her borderline personality disorder with paranoid schizophrenic tenancies. they are a normal family, but mom runs manic and dad played doormat because it was just "easier" than dealing with her behavior.
So my W grew up flying under the wingspan of her bestfriend/mom, and just thinks it is normal for families/people to act and react to events the way hers did when she was a developing child. The swings, righteousness, and manipulation was just something that is deemed as "right."
They never seem to "deal with their issues/problems", but instead fight/argue into an angry state, dad withdraws, mom eventually cools in a few days, and we all move on. It's still like this today over at their household, and really, her mom's entire side of the family has these tendencies (and issues - autism, schizophrenia, BPD, bi-polar... multiple members).
What you may be remembering about her, is that her previous long-term relationship prior to me, about 2.5 years, she was physically abused, mentally abused, and was a chronic victim of infidelity.
