Hi TK, I'm sorry that you feel sad about it. But, you know I kind of feel glad too, because it didn't sound as though your W was 'all in' and I think those should be the only terms on which you would live together again. Otherwise, you risk a kind of in-house S, which is painful and all that comes with that.
Now then my friend, she's made that decision - so accept and respect her choice and then get your focus right off her. You know what she's doing now - and so you can shift gear back to you.
Tell us some more about your plans. I'm pleased to read that you've managed to put aside the running behaviours. Given recent events, how are you going to keep on moving forwards? Your post above has a self-pitying tone - and that's never a good state to remain in for long....time to move solidly forward again...
I'm rooting for you TK
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
