Did Not See It - But Should Have

[RDS]

Just be careful, there is a difference between being a Nice Guy and being Nice.

I'd say being empathetic to her concerns is "nice" - It stinks not having space to hold the things you want...It may be good to sell them to get some cash and free up some space...That should be an interesting process; Craigslist is always an adventure. These kinds of things show you are listening, are thinking, are paying attention.

I wish I had the vision hindsight gives. I know I enjoy being the one who knows how to do stuff like this. I'm ashamed to admit it, but if she learned how to do stuff like that on her own (and she is more the able to do it) then I would feel it's one more thing she doesn't need from me.

Offering to actually DO the work for her is Nice Guy stuff. Subconsciously, you are expecting some kind of reward or payback or something for doing these kinds of things. Then, when that doesnt happen, you will likely become upset. It isnt your job to help solve her problems anymore. Your job is just as I said above, listen, validate, empathize, etc. That IS being nice and being a friend!

I know I say the only reward I'm looking for is just a "thanks" from her, but you're probably right as subconsciously I am looking for more.