Hi, C. I am honored that you have remembered my words.
It's so hard to have patience. It's like you know in your head who you could be and what this marriage could be and you just want to get to that.
But the thing is that this all needs to be done slowly. Because when it is done slowly, with intent and purpose and commitment, it builds a strong foundation. When you have that, it can handle the ebbs and flow and challenges that relationships bring.
If you rush it before either of you are truly ready, the foundation cannot weather it.
Get good with you. Get to where you know longer have to question whether you have changed. When you know deep in your soul that who you are is real. The rest will follow.
The more you try to push things...the more she will try to push back. Leave her to figure her stuff out.
