One week after my W threatens to have me arrested for false abuse, things were getting much better between us. Several interactions, both in person, on the phone/text, were very pleasant and friendly. I'd even say that many instances were even intimate, in that we were talking and sharing similar emotions/thoughts with one another. She told me that she's enjoyed our recent interactions and would like to see things continue like this regardless of what happens between us. We talked about 'life', our R, in ways that we had not been able to in the past. It seems her anger/contempt was transforming into a depression of sorts.
My W is very sad, very unstable, and still, very confused. She told me she's going to a psych to get on depression and anxiety meds. She's having a very hard time with all this, and I think her seeing me going about my own way, discovering my new person and path, only makes things more difficult on her because she's not able to let go of what's happening in her life, our marriage, etc. She called me and told me that she's going to spend a week with a family member down in FL to "get away" and reflect on things, told her I'm really happy she's going, and I hope she can find peace in her time away and come back a revived person.
While I'm still doing really well, she's having a hard time, but the interactions were feeling like the kind we had when we were first developing our friendship. On Saturday, W went to a wedding shower to a friend that was in our wedding. She text me all day talking about our R, her feelings, etc... I openly talked back and things were good, then it went dark around dinner time. No contact from her on Sunday. Then, this morning, I got a strange strange text.
W: "I wanted to let you know I made it to FL" M: "That's awesome, I'm glad you made it safely. Have fun!" ----- (this is where it gets weird) ----- W: I'm sure you've heard, but if you haven't, I met your new girl. She seems really sweet. W: She did say you message her a lot and that you need to maybe tone it back a little. Just letting you know so you don't push her away. Play it cool."
I didn't respond for a while and finally said "did you mean to send this to me?", she said yes, and that's she's not mad, but didn't like hearing about it the way she did. Told her I have no clue what she talking about and if she's accusing me of talking to another woman then I'm done talking. The texts that followed were something like:
My W and a friend were eating dinner at a place my brother regularly frequents. My bro's group and W's group were outside and shared the same waitress. Somehow W's group asked how she knew all my bro's group, and she said "oh i know him, and X, and Y, and I've been texting and talking with his brother, <myname>." My W responded, "oh really, that's crazy, he's my husband." The waitress then said to my bro's group "I didn't know that was his SO, omg, I feel horrible."
Granted, I do not know this girl, didn't know her name, but apparently I had her once as a waitress. My bro said she's not the brightest person, kinda ditzy, and that his friend was hitting on her a few weeks ago and wouldn't stop facebook messaging her. So, apparently this girl either said something confusing to my W that made her think she was talking to me, or my W misinterpreted the conversation and heard what her distrust probably makes her want to hear.
After talking to my Bro, and his group of friends that were there to figure out what the h3ll was going on, and to get a clear understanding, I just couldn't help but start cracking up laughing... like "WHY!?" The uncontrollable, unfortunate randomness of the social world just piles on drama where it's not needed. But this is kinda crazy, everyone was drunk I think, so I'm sure there was no kind of rationale involved in any of it.
20 minutes ago or so I texted my W just a final msg saying, "I got the details... This was such a outrageous misunderstanding between parties, you'll never believe the truth of the story if I told you now, but it's out there if you want it. I'm sorry you had to experience this in such an awkward way; it had to be hard to hear a story like that. I hope you can find yourself in reflection and enjoy your time at the beach."[b][/b]
