I probably am going into the stage of being the nice guy now. I just hurt her so badly over the last few years by not being the nice guy that I might be going overboard being too nice, but I really haven't had the chance to be nice to her since she left.
Just be careful, there is a difference between being a Nice Guy and being Nice.
I'd say being empathetic to her concerns is "nice" - It stinks not having space to hold the things you want...It may be good to sell them to get some cash and free up some space...That should be an interesting process; Craigslist is always an adventure. These kinds of things show you are listening, are thinking, are paying attention.
Offering to actually DO the work for her is Nice Guy stuff. Subconsciously, you are expecting some kind of reward or payback or something for doing these kinds of things. Then, when that doesnt happen, you will likely become upset. It isnt your job to help solve her problems anymore. Your job is just as I said above, listen, validate, empathize, etc. That IS being nice and being a friend!
