Also the therapist told us to take this week and do a ton of soul searching, lists whatever we need to do and decide if we want to try to make our marriage work. Not necessarily get back together, but try to do some work. I'm deathly afraid that he's gonna come in on Thursday and say he doesn't, but I need to be prepared for that.
Question - does it really matter what he says? He already told you he "wants to work on things", but you can see in his actions that hes not ready to actually put in the work. Keep your head down and work on staying stable and moving your life forward.
Originally Posted By: sr9e2d7
This might sound ridiculous, but how do you know if it's the right decision to try? How do I know that I miss him and I'm not just lonely? I tried to make pros and cons lists but they don't work. I can't put into words why I love him. Everything in me feels like I want to be with him but what if that's just me not wanting to be alone? Or me not wanting to see him with someone else? How do you truly know?
Honestly, it doesnt really matter the reason right now. You made a commitment, and at this time, you are fighting to stay committed to that commitment. Feelings change, so to base your long term decisions on what you may feel today is not going to get you anywhere.
All you can really do is focus on you and your child. Make your long term goals and decisions based on what you think is best for the two of you. Over time, you will discover if you think continuing to hope for a reconciliation fits in those plans.
