Cherry, Your H is gaslighting you. He's trying to make it seem that you're the one who's trying to put the blame on him....
He may not have a PA with skank but to me, telling such intimate details to the skank qualifies at the very least for an EA. He needs to have walls around inappropriate relationships with other skanks, and he needs to have a window/ door between you and him. Not the other way round.
Right now, he's still in a fog, so there's no point trying to make him see otherwise. I am a firm believer that you can only convert the converted, or those who wish to be converted.
I agree with the rest that there is nothing wrong with setting a firm boundary. He is not getting any MLing from if he's flirting with others and he's not sure if he wants to be in the R.
Having said that, Cherry, please do not start getting pissy at him. I am not saying that you will, but please continue treating him in a kind and loving way.
And dearie, of course skank has got nothing on you! Hold this thought and use this to boost your PMA and confidence. You are gorgeous, sassy and a great mama. And you are tough as nails! Plus, you've got morals.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
