Did Not See It - But Should Have

[RDS]

Texts are one of the best inventions of modern times and the worst. Texting is a quick and efficient way to send out small bits of conversations but more than that it can be exasperating.

I never used to care when I texted someone and they didn’t respond right away. Even when I texted my W and she didn’t respond in a timely manner I didn’t think anything about it (even in our darkest hours before she left). Now, when I text her I get too annoyed when she doesn’t respond as quickly as I think she should.

Today, as I’m doing laundry and other household chores I hear my phone text sound. It was the chime of my W’s number. She rarely texts me first and when I heard the chime my brain did a Pavlov’s reflex. I tried to ignore the text until I finished loading the washer and taking the clothes out of the dryer. I was going to wait until I put the clothes away before I looked at the text but I could not resist. It was a simple text about wanting to sell her clown dolls and masks and we would split the money. She said she didn’t have the room to store them and she didn’t want them anymore.

I waited about 15 minutes before responding. I didn’t know what dolls she was talking about. She told me it was the dolls her mother had gotten over the years and what she had before we even married. My W liked clown dolls when we first married but her mother went overboard over the years with the clown dolls she gave my W (some of them were hideous). My W stopped displaying them within the first couple of years of our marriage. I had forgotten about them. It was almost a joke between us whenever my W got a new clown doll we put it in the box with all the others.

I told her I would post the dolls on Craigslist and eBay but I would let her keep the money as those dolls were all hers and some of them she had before we married. She responded not to worry about it. She said when we were allowed to she would just throw them away. I don’t know what she meant when she said “we are allowed”. I told her I would list the and we would split the money. She said she appreciated it.

I will not try to read into it because there is no way to read into it. I have no idea why my W would want to sell the things and split the money if they are sold, but not take all the money when I offered. She would rather thrown the things away then sell the items and not share the money with me.

I’ve sold a few things around the house and have split the money with her but it’s always been marital assets. I wouldn’t think her dolls would be considered assets especially when I offered to let her keep all the money. I don’t think I will be able to sell them anyway and whatever I get will be miniscule in the grand scheme of our belongings.