First post here...just starting to GAL and 180.

[Buxom]

Soto, thanks, it does help!
I really want to do this right and I'd really like to be clear on my boundaries. I see him withdraw when I've said something like last night when I deferred talking until today. He is quiet, standoffish and only slowly engaging in convo this morning. I am light and "normal " and waiting his attempt to talk about his Mbr request. Waiting is the hard part for me, cos like most women I talk more and get into fix it mode. I'm going to go out now and get busy with something.
JSYK, Aside from the withdraws, which get shorter and less angry each time, he has been smiling and good eye contact with me, starting conversations about everything and nothing, doing things with me and kissing me good night and when leaving the house and sometimes more. He's assisting with house chores and is talking about inviting old friend ends over again. He's reconnected with old Malachi dsl and is going golfing with one guy tomorrow. This pleases.me a lot since he initially discussed his sitch about four years ago with guy and they lost touch until recently 2-3 months ago. I mention all this for background more than my focus on him. I want u to know that I'm aware that this touch and go or early reconnection time is sensitive and I'm trying to strike a balance that I can live with and not scare him off. I think he needs to know where I'm at too. Make sense?
Anyway the mbr talk is imminent and I need to convey the boundary while maintaining the connection, whatever stage that is in.

Any other input by all is much appreciated. I'm in uncharted territory and have not gotten thru the book as it's all happy nine so fast.